Counseling

  • Elementary Counseling

     

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    Aspects of the Counseling Program Include:

    • Individual counseling
    • Group counseling
    • Collaborating with parents teachers and administrators
    • Classroom lessons addressing:

    respect, bullying, problem solving and decision making

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    Philosophy of Counseling

    Counseling is an aspect of the developmental school counseling program through which the counselor helps children cope with areas of difficulty that interfere with the learning process.

    Individually or in a small group setting, the counselor provides a safe, caring environment that invites the students to overcome personal or social obstacles in their development. School counselors also coordinate referrals to community agencies.

     

    Goals of the School Counselor

    To help children…

    …understand themselves and others.

    …develop effective decision-making and problem solving skills necessary to make healthy choices and to resolve conflicts responsibly.

    …understand the school environment and responsibilities necessary to develop school success skills which will provide the foundation and desire for life-long learning.

    …develop an understanding of and respect for others including an appreciation of the uniqueness and diversity amongst individuals.

    …develop effective relational and communication skills, and to learn how to establish and maintain successful relationships.

     

     Philosophy of Counseling

    Developmental Counseling is an integral part of the entire educational program and is important to every student’s academic success. It is preventative and proactive in nature and designed to reach all students. It also helps identify and address current problems and provides crises intervention when necessary.

     

    Through the collaborative efforts of counselors, support professionals, teachers, administrators, and parents, the program promotes self-understanding, understanding of others, and the full use of one’s potential, providing all students with a nurturing environment that allows them to get the most out of their school experiences.

     

    If you have questions or concerns about your child’s educational needs, please feel free to contact me.   I will do my best to help your child have a happy and successful school year!

     

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    Fernbrook School

    Monday and Wednesday

    Mrs. Debbie Hessels

    973-361-0808

    Ext. 2229

     

     

    Shongum School

    Tuesday and Thursday

    Mrs. Debbie Hessels

    973-895-2322

    Ext. 4211

     

    Friday:

    I alternate between Fernbrook and Shongum Schools.

     

     

    dhessels@rtnj.org

     

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    Your child needs what all children need:

    To feel safe and loved…

                To feel a sense of belonging…

                To feel capable and responsible…

    To feel successful…

    To be able to accept mistakes by self and others…

     

    To understand his / her own development…

    To understand and work well with others…

     

    Your child’s school counselor

    is here to help.

     

    PARENT RESOURCES

     

    ANGER

    When I Feel Angry by Cornelia Maude Spelman

     The Grouchy Ladybug by Eric Carle

     I Feel Angry by Brian Moses

     The Ant Bully by Dee Lillegard

    When Sophie Gets Angry Really, Really, Angry by Molly Bang

     

    CONFLICT/BULLYING 

    I Feel Bullied by Jen Green

     Nobody Knew What to Do by Becky Ray McCain

     The Recess Queen by Alexis ONeill

     Stop Picking on Me by Pat Thomas

     

    GRIEF

    What on Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies? by Trevor Romain

     Lifetimes: The beautiful way to explain death to children 
    by Bryan Mellonie and Robert Ingpen

     The Saddest Time by Norma Simon

     When Someone Dies by Sharon Greenlee

     When a Pet Dies by Fred Rogers (pet loss)

     Sad Isn't Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing With Loss 
    by Michaelene Mundy

     

    DIVORCE

    At Daddy’s on Saturdays by Linda Walvoord Girard 

    Dinosaurs Divorce by Laurene and Marc Brown 

    Ginger Brown: Too Many Houses by Sharon Dennis Wyeth

    It's Not Your Fault Koko Bear by Vicki Lansky

    Let's Talk About It: Divorce by Fred Rogers

    Let's Talk About It: Stepfamilies by Fred Rogers 

    Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Any More by Kathy Stinson

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    WORRY AND FEAR

    I Feel Worried by Brian Moses 

    When I Feel Scared by Cornelia Maude Spelman 

    Wemberly Worried by Kevin Henkes 

    I Feel Frightened by Brian Moses

     

    FRIENDSHIP

    Best Friends by Allison Davis

    Franklin is Bossy by Paulette Bourgeois

    Franklin's New Friend by Paulette Bourgeois 

    How to Be a Friend by Laurie Krasny Brown & Marc Brown

     

    NEW BABY

     

    I Like to Be Little by Charlotte Zolotow

     

    The New Baby by Fred Rogers 

    The New Baby at Your House by Joanna Cole

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